I think it’s fair to say that we all get stuck in a rut at some point in our life and that it totally okay. You should never feel ashamed for feeling down.
I always beat myself up for feeling down and being unproductive in my spare time and I really need to stop doing that. In reality I just have ups and downs in terms of my mental health and evidently I’m at a little bit of a low. I wouldn’t say August had been a bad month but it’s been a different sort of month. I’ve basically worked 4 or 5 days a week and not done much on the other 2 days and I’ve haven’t done all the stuff I wanted to get done this summer. This usually happens to me a couple of times a year and I’ve kinda accepted it now because I’m only 18 so I’m not supposed to have the whole of my life completely planned out by now. I constantly learning what works and what doesn’t and where I need to improve parts of my life.
I just don’t know how to explain how I feel, I just know that I hate feeling like this and I want to get back to feeling like normal again and continue to try and lead a positive life.
By the way I am not saying any of this to get any attention. I am writing this to help any of you guys who may be feeling the same way and to raise awareness of things like this because it’s normal to feel down and you shouldn’t be ashamed of it.
I’m choosing to write about my experiences because in some ways it helps me and I’m moderately open about my mental health. I just want to help and motivate others. I understand how hard it is to open up about these things so in some ways I hope that I can be a voice for others.
By making this series and sharing my journey as it were, I hope to help others and help myself at the same time which is why I have no fixed schedule with these posts it’s just a case of writing and uploading as when I feel like it.
The first step (as the title suggests) is realising you need to get your life together. It’s a lot harder than it sounds, trust me.
I recently read You Are A Badass (you can read my review HERE) which in some ways helped me see that I wasn’t living the life I wanted to live. There was one part that truly stuck out to me because it’s very powerful:
You need to go from wanting to change your life to deciding to change you life.
A lot of people have things that they want to do and want to achieve but they never get round to doing those things. Am I right?
We all talk about all these amazing things we want to do but we never do them because we never make that first jump and make the commitment to doing it. Once you start and make the first step, it becomes easier but that first step is often the hardest.
That first step in whatever it is you are trying to achieve is you deciding that you are going to do it. That is the point when you go from wanting it to deciding it. This shift in your mindset applies to all areas and aspects of your life so you should take it and use it to help you.
Let’s say you are stuck in a bit of a rut, like I am. You can dream and want to change your life and be the person you’ve always wanted to be but it won’t happen unless you really really want it and make that first step. It could be things like swapping out your junk food, or waking up earlier, or spending less time on your phone. It doesn’t have to be anything drastic! It can be something tiny but once you make a start the rest comes a lot easier, kinda like the snowball effect I guess.
If you are struggling with finding ways to start over then maybe it would help to write things down and make a list (I love a good list) or just journal how you’re feeling. Being a visual person means I write everything down and it genuinely helps and can feel very therapeutic just to get everything out which sounds very cheesy but I hope you get what I am getting at.
So to sum up the start of this series, if you are feeling down then it’s okay and I am here if you want to talk! Also if you are wanting to live a better life for yourself then you need to really want it and then just make the first jump into your new life!
How are you guys and gals feeling at the moment? Is writing posts like this useful?